I think my ex boyfriend is in love with me, but I’m not sure. Are there any signs that I should look for from him?
Great question. But before doing anything, you need to understand when the best time to approach him is. Signs that your ex boyfriend loves you is given off both openly and subconsciously. The 3 questions that follow will help you to determine how your boyfriend really feels about you and if you should make a move in his direction.
3 Signs He Still Loves You
Has your ex boyfriend ever come to a place he knew you might be?
Anytime your ex boyfriend shows up to a place where you just happen to be at is a good sign that he still cares about you. Even though he’s there with his friends, you can be sure that he’s keeping tabs on you about who you’re with and what you’re doing. Also, has your ex boyfriend ever dropped by your house or where you work? The truth is there is no good reason for him to come to these places (except if he goes to school or works with you) other than to see how you are doing and what you are up to. Any way you slice it, your boyfriend either wants to see what you’re doing or he really misses you.
If you see you ex boyfriend in a social gathering or parties is a different issue. If both of you share a lot of mutual friends, it may not imply anything. However if your ex boyfriend appears to be close to your friends and still comes around often, then he’s more interested in seeing you than seeing your friends.
Lastly, try not to let it bother you that you’ve come in contact with your boyfriend after the breakup - this is quite normal The benefit from bumping into him every so often is that you start to create a vacancy in his life that he longs for. And as time goes on, he’ll start to think about you more often which will cause him to miss you more. This is the time when you need to start making your initial moves to get him back.
How shortly after breaking up did your ex-boyfriend come to take his “stuff”?
Does my boyfriend still really love me? A great reason your ex boyfriend will use to “see” you after the breakup will be when he shows up to get his stuff. This is a great chance to have a conversation with him.
Depending on how long it’s been since the breakup, your ex boyfriend may still be angry and emotional towards you. This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you. He may just be looking to vent.
Is your ex boyfriend taking a while to collect his stuff? If so, he probably wants things to cool down between you two before seeing you again. Also, it’s possible that he wanted to see if he could handle life without you before getting his stuff. This can really be a huge clue that your ex boyfriend is still interested in you. Depending on how the breakup went down, there’s a good chance that when he comes to get his stuff is really the point in his life when he started to miss you the most and needed to see you.
Did you know there’s an even better indication that your boyfriend still loves you? It’s when he leaves his stuff with you and doesn’t come back to get it. This means that as a girlfriend and lover, you were more significant to him than anything he ever gave you. What he’s really doing here by not showing up to take his stuff is he’s hoping you’ll call him so he can strike up a conversation with you.
At the end of the day, if your boyfriend calls and asks for certain thing, conspicuously allow him have it.
How does your ex boyfriend react, when you see him face to face?
How your ex boyfriend reacts around you, including his body language, the way he dresses and his words will speak volumes about how he still feels about you. Expect that if you’re meeting up with a group of friends that your face to face meeting will be friendly and amicable. Depending on how the relationship ended, your ex boyfriend might want to show you a different side to him and an outing with friends is the perfect cover. And if you find that your ex boyfriend is extremely friendly and outgoing, there’s a good chance he’s looking to make a second impression on you.
There’s something else to look out for during your face to face meeting - do you know what that is? When he can not look straight into your eyes. If your ex boyfriend is not comfortable around you but he still wants to be with you, then don’t expect him to look you in the eye. There’s a good chance that he’s still struggling with being apart from you but doesn’t know what he should do next.
If you’ve been bummping into your ex boyfriend a lot lately, there are 5 simple personal adustments you can make that will make your ex boyfriend want you back and have him wanting to see you more and more.
These are just 3 of the many signs your boyfriend still loves you and wants you back. Now that you know what to look for, think back and see if any of these have ever taken place when you’ve crossed paths. If so, maybe you’re closer to getting your ex boyfriend back than you think?